Appropriate intimacy in dating
More powerful than a kiss, more seductive than an embrace, there is something that happens when two people connect emotionally.Something that has the capacity to outweigh even the physical. I’m sure it’s no surprise to hear that I get asked this question all the time from well-meaning young adults, looking to set up some boundaries in their relationships.But why is it that when we answer this question, we tend to fixate on the physical?It seems to me that our Christian society can get so fixated on the “physical” aspects of intimacy, that we neglect the emotional and spiritual components that can be just as binding and just as devastating in the end.There is some deep power in , more power than we give it credit.Making a decision on the fly with no forethought is a recipe for going too far. Is it in our best interest to engage in these practices prior to marriage? For those who have adopted the standards of behavior endorsed by today’s entertainment industry, these are stupid questions.
Matthew says that "the spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak." Why is it that our bodies rebel against our minds when it comes to sexual purity?
Nowhere, however, does it say that God picked out a spunky brunette whom he's waiting to spring on you at the right moment. When it comes to God, I'm pretty careful about saying what he does or doesn't do.
But I do know this—if you rely on this idea too much, your dating life will get really confusing.
Let's talk about getting physical during dating relationships. Everybody has an opinion, from "don't even make eye contact" to "you can do anything but have sex." How is a Christian teen supposed to know what to do? First things first though, if your parents have said that you are not allowed to date, then you must obey their rules.
Proverbs 1:8 says, "Hear, my son, your father's instruction, and forsake not your mother's teaching..." Colossians says, "Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord." Are we cool on that? The old cliché that "one thing leads to another" is really true when it comes to physical intimacy.